Book of the Week: Click

17 Oct 2016

This week I read Click: The Forces Behind How We Fully Engage with People, Work, and Everything We Do, because I need to learn how to connect with people quickly and effectively. It is easier to accomplish goals with other people than alone. The book is a quick read. Clicking

In its simplest terms, clicking can be defined as an immediate, deep, and meaningful connection with another person or with the world around us.

Have you ever met someone and you just clicked right away? This book goes into how and why that happens. Levels of Interactions There are different levels of interaction that go from superficial to deep

• phatic - social niceties, “How are you?”
• factual - sharing and seeking bits of info, “What do you do for a living?”
• evaluative - views about people and situations, “That movie was funny.”
• gut-level - feeling-based perspective, “I’m sad that you’re not here.”
• peak - sharing innermost feelings that and carry the most risk about how other person would respond.

We can help to create magical connections simply by evaluating the language we use from phatic to the peak level.

5 Accelerators These 5 accelerators play a role in a click.

• vulnerability - being vulnerable helps people connect.
• proximity - physical distance plays a big role subconsciously.
• resonance - need to be able to respond and react to a person. If you’re in the zone, you can pull people in.
• similarity - doesn’t matter what is similar, just the quantity of similarity.
• environment - overcoming shared adversity brings people together.